The one question that seems to bring a lot of debate to the world of parenting is do you breast or formula feed? I know I had touched on this before and the struggle I had with the boys and nursing. I still get asked often if they are formula fed or breastfed and quite honestly the only person that I feel has a need to ask this question is their pediatrician. I think sometimes (and this does not apply to everyone) for people who were able to successfully breastfed without any issues don’t understand why others were not able to and people who formula feed feel that they need to defend their choices.
I wanted to be able to nurse and honestly never thought that I would have issues both emotionally and with supply and have to switch to formula, but we did and I am okay with this choice. I don’t regret this choice, but I do still feel a little sad when I see someone nursing their baby because it was something I wanted. I then remind myself that my boys are healthy and thriving. Someone who wanted to nurse but couldn’t does not make the decision to change their baby to formula lightly, I had plenty of tearful conversations with my husband about this decision. One thing I learned from other moms who had to pump for their babies was never to quit on a bad day so I stuck it out until I was able to peacefully accept my decision to formula feed.
I just think moms need to support each other more instead of tearing each other down. My babies do not love me any less because I was not able to nurse them and I don’t feel like we have a broken bond because we use a bottle. Babies need to be loved and nurtured and how we feed them is no indication of the adult they will become, but a child who is raised in a loving and caring home can help shape the adult they will become. I was formula fed and I was very attached to my mother as a child and to this day she is still one of my best friends and this was because of the love she showed me and not the food she put in my mouth. So to all my mommy friends out there keep doing what you are doing and love your babies and feed them whatever way works best for your family 🙂
I will climb off my soapbox now haha and share some pictures of my beautiful little boys!